In defense of waiting

I’m going to make a confession. I’m 30 years old and I am abstinent and intend to be until the day I marry (if the Lord allows me to get married). I’m not bringing this up to brag or to complain, I’m saying it because yesterday I saw a really great piece by Steven Crowder on about this and wanted to share it. You see Steven just got married last month and in his words “we did it right.”

“Let me preface this column by saying this: my wife (I have to get used to saying that) and I not only waited sexually in every way (no, we didn’t pull the Bill Clinton and technically avoid “sex” sex,) but we didn’t shack up as live-ins and most importantly, we courted each other in a way that was consistent with our publicly professed values,” Crowder wrote.

But that wasn’t the part that really stuck out to me. You see, I’ve known a number of Christian couples who waited, difficult as it was, and I’ve admired and supported each and every one of them. The part that most resonated with me as a single woman was this:

“Feeling judged? I couldn’t care less. You know why? Because my wife and I were judged all throughout our relationship. People laughed, scoffed and poked fun at the young, celibate, naive Christian couple.”

He’s right of course. Christians who choose to adhere to this standard become the butt of jokes from people they know and from the music/movies/books that come from our secular culture constantly. But it is the right standard. It is God’s standard! The Bible is very clear on what is sexually immoral and the fact that such immorality is wrong.

So I, for one, am grateful for Crowder’s column and I highly recommend reading it in full. He writes as one who has made it to the other side. He got married, but even as someone who hasn’t I rejoice for him and his new bride and take comfort that I’m not the only one being judged.

I did notice he was getting some flack online yesterday for writing this so if you like his piece as much as I did be sure to drop him a tweet of encouragement: @Scrowder

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2 Responses to In defense of waiting

  1. JessicaHof says:

    Right with you sister! I did just that, and I know, going through University, how hard it was, and I remember having all sorts of ‘explanations’ being provided for what was thought to be my strange state. Odd how every single one of them was uncharitable. Was I being judged? You bet. Am I going to be Judged – oh yes, and I know whose Judgement counts 🙂

    Good on you, Julia, and you stay as you are. The right man will be like Steven – and if he isn’t, then he isn’t 🙂

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