Although I’m not yet married, I enjoy hearing the wisdom of those who are married. I particularly appreciate this piece by Jen Pollock Michel in Christianity Today (which I found linked at Challies.com).
She has been married to her husband for twenty years and shared some wisdom and advice about marriage in CT, although the summary point was, “Marriage is good.”
Michel also contrasted a Christian view of marriage with that the many “mixed messages” we all encounter about marriage.
She writes, “But the only biblical model for marriage we have isn’t equity; it’s self-sacrifice. The profound mystery is that marriage reflects a greater reality, that of the relationship between Christ and his church (Eph. 5:32). In betrothing himself to us in limitless love, God never insisted upon fairness. He gave beyond what could be repaid—and what would he now withhold (Rom. 8:32)? This love of God, from which neither “death nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation” can separate us, is a sustained act of self-giving. God has suffered unfairness, and we have been the beneficiaries. Marriage mirrors this gospel dynamic: sacrifice and benefit. It’s just that we aren’t guaranteed to be on the “favorable” side of the ledger.”
Read it all here.